Lauren has worked in the childcare industry since she was 16 years old. She has suffered with depression for much of her childhood through to early adulthood and has worked hard with counsellors over the years to get to a good place. Here, Lauren explains why she wishes she had discovered the Confidence Star years ago.
How did you first hear about the Confidence Star?
I am the manager at a breakfast and after school club catering to children aged 3 to 9 years old. Ife’s sons joined the club and I was lucky enough to learn about the star from Ife and her boys. When I heard about it, it seemed like such a lovely thing to do. Ife kindly donated a star to the club, and we began saying it every day with the children.
How did the children take to saying the affirmations each day?
I noticed there was one boy who struggled with the line “I like myself” which seemed astonishing to me. It made me realise that children don’t just naturally have high self-esteem. So, we set about saying the words on the star and by the end of the week, the boy was saying them all and beaming.
What impact has it had on the children?
I’ve noticed a marked difference in the children over the months we’ve been using the star. They are more engaged in conversation and are much more able to express themselves. They are also more inquisitive and much calmer! It was brilliant because we were all able to talk about the star and it has helped us to foster an environment where the children care for themselves and each other.
Why do you think it works so well?
I think it’s because you say the words while looking at yourself in the mirrored surface of the star. We all have busy lives, taking a minute to say the words is your time and an opportunity to value yourself.
Do you use the star?
Yes, every day, it’s on the wall in the bathroom at home. The first time I said the words I felt like a weirdo! But I’m now a lot more confident. I’m a manager and I’ve learnt to take feedback. I used to cry at anything and take everything to heart. I often felt worthless and suffered with deep depression. Ife and the Confidence Star have changed my life. My wife used the star too and it’s given her the self-belief to go for a job interview and push herself in her career.
What would you say to people who don’t have the Confidence Star?
Buy the star! The star is not just a star, it has a deeper meaning. The words mean so much, they touch me in such a way that makes me feel confident and happy. It sounds silly but saying those words has such an impact that people don’t realise until they try it. I’d say give it a go and give yourself a chance and see how it changes you.
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